Just Start

Complete fulfillment is hard to find!

Yesterday was the first day I felt completely fulfilled since being in school. I have done a lot of things that made me happy and content, but yesterday, I felt like it was the start of a new beginning. I simply went to a Women’s Entrepreneurship symposium. This was very fulfilling in that it was the first step taken to pursue entrepreneurship. My ultimate dream and goal in life is to be a successful entrepreneur. 

Yesterday, I also realized that I am a very unconventional person. I like that about myself because it helps me to always think outside of the box. Again, because I am entrepreneur-minded, I am never afraid to be different and stand out. A few ways I am unconventional is through my dreams and desires. Coming to college, I wanted to be a Pediatrician who owned my own private practice, along with owning and teaching at a dance studio, while also having a household full of children (If I told you how many, you might think I’m insane.). To me, this idea was perfectly normal. To my friends, this idea was unplanned and scattered. At that moment, I realized that there was something interestingly different about me. Why weren’t my friends getting it? Why did it sound so strange to them? ….Because it’s not conventional! Most people don’t choose the major I chose and try to be a entrepreneur of three majorly different businesses.

There are always new and better ways to pursue dreams. As a Christian, I believe God orders my steps, so the way I pursue my dreams will always be aligned with His plan. If you do it God’s way, you can never go wrong. Since my initial plan to be a Pediatrician, it has changed. As mentioned, now I want to own fashion lines, makeup lines, and perfume lines…along with a dance studio and a household full of children. I used to try to place myself in a box, because in college, they heavily enforce picking a path and sticking to it. I have NEVER thought that way. My mind does not even function like that. Even as a child, I had many tasks and responsibilities that I loved to do. I was passionate about my passion. This passion to be a boss in many avenues started when I was in middle school. I taught dance to girls ages 3-18 at my middle and high school and my dance studio, danced since I was 6 years old, coached cheerleading to girls 3-13, sang on the Praise Team and in the choir, sang in Ensemble, was cheerleading captain for all four years of high school, served as a representative, Secretary, Vice President, and President in Student Government all before my Senior year, and designed a dress and had it made for my Senior Homecoming. I did not realize that I was “doing too much” until someone brought it to my attention. I just considered it to be things I loved to do. I cherished the opportunities to make a difference and impact other people.

After all of that and then coming to college and being in leadership positions, it was confirmed that I wanted to own my own. How could I not use God’s given talent and ability to make a difference? After leaving the Women’s Entrepreneurship Symposium, I felt revived and ready to step into the real world and take a chance. It was not only empowering to see a room full of women pursuing fulfilled dreams, but it was motivating.

My Next steps:

  1. Form my squad-Who you surround yourself with determines how far you will go. In life, it’s all about networking. I actually found myself a group a girls who fervently pursued their businesses and goals to be an entrepreneur. We are working on staying in contact and forming a mutually, beneficial relationship.
  2. Change habits-Being that I am going to be in the “beauty industry”, I have to make sure my habits align with my goals. I am doing that by changing my eating habits, sleeping earlier, and following through with my written out goals. I have not yet mastered this. Literally the moment I decided to do better, all I see is SALE! SALE! SALE! As a college student, sales could be a major determining factor. However, I have to ask myself, “What is my end goal?”.
  3. Educate myself-I am in the process of buying books and subscribing to magazines that will educate me on business and entrepreneurial skills. Until then, I use my trusted, long-time companion, Pinterest! (If you know me, you know I am obsessed with Pinterest.)
  4. Start somewhere-This summer I have the pleasure of doing a Fashion Internship at a major company in New York City!!! This is the first step to pursuing my fashion designing. I am excited and look forward to working with major designers and learning all about the business. SquadGoals

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It’s time to just START!

You want to loose weight–Just START!………………You want to redecorate–Just START!

You want to finish school–Just START!……………… You want to write a book–Just START!

 

What are your dreams? What’s your first step to make it come true? Comment below 🙂

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Give and Take

What are your friends for?

FRIENDSHIP is so much more than having someone to hang out with. Do your friends turn to you for prayer or gossip? Do you turn to your friends for prayer or gossip? I asked the question in both ways because friendship is a give and take relationship.

This past year, my prayer life has increased tremendously. My friends have reached out to me to pray for things that are beyond my personal experiences. I could have easily shied away from praying for them, but I remembered that if I pray what the Word says (in context), I will always pray the right things. It is important to remember that your friends’ experiences are centered around the Word, not the other way around. Prayer is just ONE foundation to build a friendship on.

I am no expert on friendship, but I know what I have experienced personally. Since I have been in college I’ve really discovered the definition of a true friend. Instead of just calling “them” a friend, I ask myself “what makes ‘them’ a good friend?” I honestly believe that God’s plan for me to come to college was for more than just school. School was just the next step after graduating high school. I am in college mainly for the people, to create friendships and relationships, for good teaching at my church, and to experience life outside of my living quarters. Since being here, I have truly formed God-ordained relationships. After meeting them, they have raised the bar of what friendship should be.  I am aware that friendships are seasonal, but the goal is to gain something beneficial….and give something beneficial.

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What I gained from the friendship is…

  1. Sisterhood/Brotherhood
  2. Spontaneity 
  3. Fun and genuine ways to live like a Christian
  4. Love for God, church, and His people
  5. Unconditional generosity
  6. Unconditional love
  7. Humor in EVERYTHING

…just to name a few-

It is important to have a give and take relationship in a friendship. It is also important to see the value in having a friend. I see all of my friendships as valuable. When something is valuable to you, you cherish it and do your best to take care of it. Outside of Jesus–Who can you call on when you need comfort? Who will speak only positive things over you? Who will still be your friend despite distance? Who will display the same characteristics you do? There are many clichés that state the effects of friendship. Some include, “Show me your friends and I’ll tell you who you are” or “bad company corrupts good behavior.” Scripture even highlights benefits of good friendship– “Become wise by walking with the wise; hang out with fools and watch your life fall to pieces”-Proverbs 13:20 (MSG). Friendships are needed and you should be able to see value in each one.

Good fruit or bad fruit?

A tree is known by the fruit it bears. An apple tree will produce apples . A peach tree will produce peaches. A liar will produce lies. A giver will produce gifts. What kind of fruit do you want to produce? The type of fruit that I want in my life will be a reflection of Godly characteristics. I intentionally surrounded myself with people who could bring out the best in me in the worst situations. Friendship is intentional. They can change,but if you are intentional on the company you keep, you will see and reap the benefits.

Just as it’s important to surround yourself with the right people, it is also important to know how to treat people you choose to be friends with. Relationships of any kind are cyclical and a never ending process. Nasty, backbiting behavior is not an example of a true friendship. Proverbs 17:9 (AMP) simply says “He who covers and forgives an offense seeks love , But he who repeats or gossips about a matter separates intimate friends.” It’s okay to have an issue with a friend, but the right thing to do is talk about it and forgive them. If you talk about it and then keep bringing up the issue, causing strife, that’s not okay. Who wants to be in a relationship with someone who is always causing issues… When you have those kind of friends,the question is not “Are they my friend?” The question is “Are they a friend for ME?” People normally exhibit behavior to the best of their ability of what they have been exposed to. What’s best for them might not necessarily be what’s best for you. With that being said, there are levels to friendships. You don’t just disregard and exclude people, but… you realize who people are, their purpose in your life, and your purpose in their life. That is a different blog for another day though…

What do you look for in a friend? Comment below 🙂

 

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Beauty Refined

I Define Me! Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. It is so much more than just makeup and fashion. The theme of my blog is “Beauty Refined”. To refine means to remove any impurities. So, the first step is to ask yourself, what is impure about me? The answer to that question is simple…NOTHING! The Bible […]

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My Perspective

When you hear of a blog, what do you think of? I think of inspiration, motivation, beauty, style, and shared perspectives. Many people have asked me to write blogs and do other documenting in the past, but I always considered it a distant thought. Never in a million years did I think I would be writing […]

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